Oct 25th, 2014 12:00 P.M. in La Quinta Hotel in Brooklyn Park, my second day visiting Minnesota. Today I'm suppose to see my father who lives in Plymouth Minnesota, and finally see my sister and her husband who lives in New York. I haven't seen family for a year now, but today was the day to have mother's memorial service with the family and relatives. I got into my rental car, and drove through memorable highway 169.
It was a month ago when my father told me we would have a memorial service for mother one last time, and in that phone call before he hung up, he asked me if my sister ever told me about his girl friend. Then my old man asked me to take my mother's rings and other jewels, and carry mother's memories. I was shocked at first, and super dumbfounded. Since it was only 3 years ago mother passed away from cancer, and in my mind all I thought was "35 years of their marriage only equated to three year of mourning for my father?" Clearing my throat to respond, and finally getting my composure together, while putting things in perspective through my head I answered honestly no! My thoughts fizzled, while it became cold and numb. A speechless betrayal in mind, but I knew my old man was weak alone. I remember when I used to live in Anoka Apartment in Minnesota, I visited his home in Blaine, my old man crying alone to sleep. Maybe he has suffered enough, and thought to myself how can I judge this man, my father who lost his wife through cancer. To feel desolate for three years must of been a lonely life, and finally he has someone to fill the void he has lost.
So here I was in Minnesota, to my old man's new apartment. After looking at the Email he sent with the address to his home on my Ipad, all I wanted was to get this over with. Lot of memories I wanted to forget, and this gut wrenching moment that made me feel weak. As I walk through the hallway to my father's apartment, I see an open door with the scent of Korean food! As I enter into the Apartment, I did not see my father, but a lady who I have never met cooking in the kitchen. Completely surprised by this unknown person, I simply said hello! It was unexpected that this is how I would have met this person, the lady who was my father's girl friend. I knew the moment I came in, but I didn't know how I was suppose to act or respond, this lady who may take over my mother's spot. Million things went through my head, but I knew it wasn't her fault, and she is living life like anyone in the world. Humans live for the moment, and without taking life for granted, who am I to judge her?
In a moment of awe of the situation, I started conversation with her by asking how she met my father to how long they knew each other, and where was my father at this time. I felt so out of place in my old man's apartment, like something was completely amiss. Then she tells me the unspeakable that would have never crossed my mind, and tells me both will be getting married tomorrow! Luckily for me my sister gave me a call to tell me she was lost , and no timing was greater than then. It gave me an escape, to take a breather! So I told my future "step mother" I needed to excuse myself, and help my sister get back on the right road. I think I smoked about a five cigarettes in a minute outside apartment entry way, as I gave my sister the directions.
It was good to stay outside that day, it was Minnesota's finest air and sun light breeze. It sincerely helped me cleared my mind, and when I saw my sister in the vehicle coming into the parking lot, it was extra pleasant sight to see a familiar faces. When I approached my sister's vehicle, I final saw her daughter for the first time. As my sister and her husband walked with me to our father's apartment, I had to ask if she knew our father was getting married very next day of the memorial service. Sure enough my sister knew, but she then tells me not to get mad, that she only knew a week in advanced. Still numb by this whole experience, all I could ask was why couldn't my own father tell me he was getting married, and as usual siding with my father my sister defends him by telling me "he probably didn't wanted us to judge him!" Of course I would have judged him, but I would have been less angry at my old man if he came up front. As we all gathered in the apartment, we had a meal that my father's girl friend has prepared, and it was sincerely surprising to hear my sister ask questions to our future step mother of various questions I would have asked out of curiosity. Then it dawn on me my sister knew nothing about this lady who my father was going to marry, and it became evident my sister who was closest to my father didn't know nothing, then I understood my old man was afraid that we would judge him!
As we finished our meal, time came for us to pay our respect to my mother who laid six feet under. How can I explain the irony of this predicament, my father's girl friend will be joining us in our mother's final yearly memorial service, and tomorrow she will marry my father! In my mind this is the stuff you read about in fictional Hollywood scripts, or some kinda ****** reality television show, but here it was in full glory.
I will say one thing about this lady I knew very little about, she seemed very nice, and her cooking were amazing. After clearing all the dishes, step mother grabbed my mother's memorial picture, and told us this is what our father recommend for us to bring for the service.
Continuation of the original Journal "Return to The Memory Lane, and Open Heart."
So much to write, and this isn't finished yet! I'll most likely update this with progression of the story, but I promise you it will get better! I know I could have kept this in my draft until I was finished, but I am unsure when I maybe deleting my Hello Poetry page!