Ways to say I love you without actually trying or displaying emotion:
listening to me when I talk
saying hi when I walk up
valuing my presence
not groaning when I begin speaking
not telling me my presence is an inconvenience
wanting to spend time with me
not ******* about me while I'm within earshot
smile at things I say
don't complain when I talk too loud
actually talk to me occasionally
make eye contact or smile in the halls
appreciate me
see? it's not that hard. if other people can do it,
you can.
I don't need constant hugs or verbal affirmation
I don't need you to compliment me, even.
Just show that you care-
the simplest way to do that is to actually care.
and if you can't do that,
then you aren't ready to be in any kind of friendship with me
because I, like most people, only enjoy
being in relationships with people
who actually want them there.
If you don't want to be up to this 'tremendous' challenge
and you don't believe you can fundamentally change yourself
and if you don't want to,
then consider the friendship over.
Because it would be nice if I could accept you for exactly who you are
but exactly who you are is kind of an *******
and if you can't see that
then there's something wrong
and if you can see it and don't want to change it
then there's something wrong.
I'd like to love you unconditionally
but I can't be the only one doing the loving
while you aren't even paying attention to me.
It's unhealthy.
Compromise, communication, appreciation-
things you don't seem to care that much about
AKA the fundamental cores of a good relationship
and if your basic personality isn't conducive to a good relationship
we are going to have a problem, especially
if you aren't willing to solve the problem.
on the inconvenience note: while it was true, you don't need to tell me. that's a **** move, saying something you know will be perceived negatively, just because it's true.