How can they say what MY nature is?
That what I was born with dictates my temperament.
I must nurture and endure the pain,
Allowing my body to be distorted and bloated,
All for some husband to have a mini-him,
And to add to my constant laboring.
Men socialized to treat a wife like a mother,
Coddled and fawned over by her,
Allowed to come back from work to a home cooked meal,
While their wife's endless work never ceases.
It took me a while to realize I was supposed to grow into a woman as a young child. For some reason I thought I was exempt from that, and that I was just a boy who wasn't allowed to have short hair. After I figured out that was not the case, I was in horror of the idea of "submitting to your husband."
I didn't want to give birth or wear a wedding dress, or even be a woman in general. Of course there were more reasons, but really I think the stuff my church told us made me resent how I was born even more. I have learned that of course this is a very outdated and awful example of marriage, but still, some people (men specifically) think this is ideal. Which is far from the truth.
I wrote this to express my thoughts on this whole awful concept.