my insides fold into itself, dry kindling and twigs might snap pour gasoline over me, try cover me with leaves, but i'll still burn myself but i'll still exhaust myself feeding warmth for the both of us and remember what happens when skin gets too close to an open flame
Your appearance in the doorway later is an incitement
It's not your fault
You merely exist
But it's too much for me to handle
So I ***** a wall and even that is a provocation and an incitement for I can't escape the knowledge of who's on the other side with all my concentration I redirect my thoughts away from this evil inclination to ****** a secret peek that can't be secret and I recoil in my guilt asking forgiveness
A *mechitzah* is a man made barrier erected to separate the sexes in Orthodox Judaism
It is not unusual that at some point in our lives we will have to deal with a tense encounter where words will be exchanged in an environment of anger with others. Usually there is one person who is in less control of himself and poses a greater risk to harm the other. How do you defuse the situation? How do you calm someone who is angry? First, talk with a low calm voice. Secondly, show them your white teeth (smile), if possible. And don't look them directly in the face. These three suggestions are predicated on the fact that they are all non-engaging and have a tendency to calm or reduce tension from the aggravated party.
It all starts by using the wrong words, or the right words interpreted the wrong way by the offended party. This escalates potentially becoming a provocation by someone who is incensed or upset over a matter. Angry words then usually follow. Depending on how you handle things, will determine whether you succeed to defuse the situation or not. And sometimes, just sometimes, friendship regains that upper hand. This is the best case scenario which everyone could only want. I tried to capture all this with a short Haiku that now follows:
a word, provoking angry words are now exchanged smiles come, peace remains
As an interesting afterthought, a person once shared with me his unusual approach he himself uses to avoid getting angry. He told me whenever he feels that he is about to get angry he forces himself to laugh uncontrollably and loud that his anger not "take control of Him." He said it works. I am fortunately happy to tell you have never had a chance to test his system out.
A short Haiku poem that discusses a way to avoid anger
Oh subtle sounds why do you taunt My frail mind of guilt? Yes far I went, too far 'Till your eyes no longer glinted In the pale moonlight And you lay stiller Than the garden statue Now of which has the engraved characters R.I.P And yes sorry I am thy heart of sweet But provocation you purged me with And cope I couldn't Now pray I shall that found your not Pray and pray I will I wish you peace But most of all I wish away my doings