After a toxic relationship everyone tells you that you deserve better. You agree but you don't usually feel that way. You can't understand how someone you loved, someone you thought at one point was perfect, turned out to be so wrong for you. You start to think that you deserve what happened to you; that you were stupid enough to not see the warning signs. You start to think that you can't do better than him, or that someone better doesn't even exist.

You're wrong.

Someone better is out there waiting for the chance to meet someone like you. You may not believe it, hell, I didn't believe it until it happened to me.

I thought I was never going to meet someone who could make me as happy as my ex did. Someone that I could share my passion with. Someone that I could click with instantaneously.

But I did.

It happens at different times for people so don't rush it. Some it can take a week; others months, maybe, even years.

Be patient.

Every boy I have ever let go of has marks left on his skin from my grip.

I am unable to let go but I force myself knowing it's the right thing to do.

I do it to myself. Why?

I'm still trying to figure that out.

You tell me that the next time you see me you want me to be full of life and happy. I wanted to reply, "You idiot, you're the only one that can do that" but instead I say "Okay."

Maybe not speaking up is what got me here in the first place.

Thank you for pushing me over the edge.

Thank you for showing me your true colors.

Thank you for showing me how immature and petty you truly are.

Thank you for showing me you never really changed, regardless of how much you tried convincing me you did.


Never would I have thought I'd one day be thanking you for these things but here I am, saying thank you to the boy who broke me. I'm saying thank you for one reason and one reason only; with this, you have given me the ability to finally get over you.

Before, there was always a part of me that held onto you; that tried so hard to hold onto the good parts of you, with hope that maybe one day we could try again. But after that night, there is no going back. I no longer want to be with you. I no longer see my future with you. I now know that I deserve better than you, much better. And I will no loner fall for your lies and fake promises.

So thank you.

I was in the 8th grade when a boy once said to me, " You have a really nice body, but then you get to your face and they just don't match."

I was in the 9th grade when a boy broke up with me and my initial thought was, "I guess I just wasn't pretty enough for him."

I was in the 10th grade when I thought I had to count my calories in order to be as pretty as some of the girls I saw on television.

I was in the 11th grade when I fell in love, and peoples reactions were, "Why is HE dating HER?"

I was in the 12th grade when I turned down a guy and his first reaction was, "well you're a **** anyways."


In school,

we were taught math but were never taught self love.

we were taught history but were never taught kindness or compassion.

we were taught english but were never taught respect.

we were taught science but were never taught how to be a decent ******* human being.


I think back and realize that a lot of things that happened in the past don't even matter now.

But it did.


It shouldn't take someone committing suicide for people to finally realize that we should be kind.

Be kind because it's the right thing to be. Always.

Help people strive for self love because, *******, we all know how hard that is to obtain.

Keep living by the golden rule and maybe, just maybe, the world would be a better place, with happier people.

you may be difficult to love but that doesn't mean you're any less deserving of it

he can break your promises

you can't force change

each time you love, you love harder

each love you have will be different, incomparable (but you may try to)

you create your own limit on forgiveness

he will help you see your beauty, but that doesn't mean when he leaves it leaves with him

love alone isn't enough

distance will affect a relationship

you will be gullible when it comes to love

love should not make you weak, it should empower you

head vs. heart is a real thing

boys will trick you into thinking they are genuine. When you discover they aren't, don't blame yourself, leave

you can't force him to be anything more than what he is

people express love in different ways

time will pass, and you may still feel the same

keeping yourself busy will help, but not for long

one day you will wake up and it won't hurt anymore

he can love you, and still hurt you

you can love him, and still hurt him

not all relationships are meant to last

just because you haven't been alone doesn't mean you can't be

love should be selfless

love can make you angry, angrier than you ever thought was possible

sometimes it's easier to just forgive him, even though you know you shouldn't

you can love someone, and still break up with him/her

you can't control how you feel or who you fall for

sometimes staying will hurt you more than leaving

break ups will show you who's really there for you

you will try everything in you to believe his words even though deep down you know they aren't sincere

sometimes we want what we want even if we know it's going to **** us

he will feel hurt, and try to hurt you back

you cannot grow too dependent on him because he can leave

never settle for anything less than what you deserve

Your mind may trick abuse for love

Sometimes old love comes back; that's not always a bad thing

Time alone makes you realize who you need in your life

Some nights will be good, others will be bad

Always go with your gut feeling

You pictured your life once without him, you can do it again

Don't drag someone along when you have no intentions on keeping them

Love doesn't always make sense

Sometimes you are the problem

Be brave even when it's hard

Never settle in order to make others happy

You can always start over

If you asked me to do it all over again, I would. Even if it ended with you telling me the same thing, I would. Even if it were to keep me up all night like it is now, I would. Even if in that moment after, I still feel crushed, I would. Because all of that is worth it to me.

I just want to feel again.

You say you make me the happiest but you forget that you also make me the saddest.

You say that if you love someone that much you should keep trying.

You say that you never meant to hurt me.

You say that you won't hurt me again.

You say that the fighting is behind us.

You say that this is the last time.

You say that if you make me that happy, I should just drop everything and be with you.

You say that you've changed.



But you're wrong.