"Quibbling over the minutiae of form
Is indicative of failure to grasp the spirit"
Or so my grandpa always warned
So if you're here to argue, I don't want to hear it
If our debates are merely petty
If our disagreements are trite
Let's work to keep our egos steady
And not just simply fight to be right
No idea about the origin of the saying, but my mom and her siblings heard it so much growing up they can all chant it in unison.
If only we'd all take it to heart.