People who want to love, have to suffer in the hands of their lover.
The selection process is so tedious, full of pain but sweet pain.
You have a lot of information about love in the world, but to know the truth of pain behind love, let us discuss...

Something strange happens before you speak to your lover in love.
Assume you're in love with one of your colleagues, what happens in general, you create a virtual world of your office in your mind and the entire structure of the office is recorded, where your crush is sitting in and from where you watch her...
If she is not looking at you, you do all kinds of drama to attract her.

You find a  Common behaviour.
Scene 1 : John was attracted to his colleague Daisy, What John will do is wear a perfect fitting dress and to show her he is fit, lower his voice and use a different tone to attract her. Always exhibits Alpha male behaviour to display his leadership on every assignment.

If you still fail to attract her then what happens is..
You decide to create jealousy, hence she may get attracted to you.

Scene 2 : Meanwhile, John would have created a virtual world of the office, he is constantly watching her in his virtual world and doing a lot of interaction with her in the virtual world, he will go on attempting to attract her in the virtual world though nothing happens in the outer world. Why this happening is, John first has to attract her in his virtual world in order to attract her in the outer world. This is a sweet pain.
The awesome moment is that his mood changes outer, depending on her behaviour in his virtual world. You would have seen the guys in love sometimes happy and vice versa. was all because of the virtual world scenario.
Suppose, If John was not able to attract Daisy means he will imagine bringing a beautiful girl into his virtual office in order to create jealousy but this actually happens in his virtual world but the truth is there is no way, he is bringing a girl to his real office to offend her. This whole scenario was because he wanted it to happen in the virtual world first, If he attracts her in his virtual world, then he can do the same in the outer world.


Next, You imagine that you want to enter the office without looking at her, and want to avoid her throughout the day, but in reality that is not possible. Even this thought and action was continually practiced inside your virtual world. when you're alone.

Scene 3
John will keep on thinking not to see her and wants to avoid her. He never knows avoiding her is more of a kind of behaviour of attracting her. He enters his office without watching her and prevents seeing her side but his entire body language will be attracting and she knows he is trying to avoid her. She will read his behaviour that only his eyes are avoiding, not his body. Again he fails.


You have more thoughts like teasing her as if she is nothing to you, sometimes you imagine you're shouting at her in the office or public places. But all these activities you want to do only in your thoughts i.e. virtual world.
Why?
Because you cannot hate her and you want to create a situation and lead that situation to hate. You have to ignore/hate her in your virtual world, then only you can ignore her in the outer world.
Suppose, if you are successful then she even disappears from the inner and outer world.
But that was not possible in love.

In simple terms,
Initially, love always happens in your virtual world and not outside.
The entire interaction of what is happening outside is actually happening inside of your virtual world.  That's why we all feel when they avoid us we carry it to our home because the virtual world goes on exhibiting the scenario and gives ideas to take revenge on her in your virtual world.
But once you see her in the office the next day, you're so normal as if nothing happened..
We punish/revenge our girlfriend only in the virtual world till our love becomes successful.