Just be real friend. Be who you are, and where you are at. That's enough, and it's the only way forward.
Most of us have put on enough masks in our life time, to have completely forgotten our original face.
We've become far too clad with the heavy coats of expectation, suffocating under the weight of the ways we think we ought to be.
You can drop that garb.
There's always mystery at the naked core of who you are, and that's just fine.
It's not that we must rediscover some definable self, and hand that image over for validation. Rather, those solid definitions we cart around with us are heavy enough as it is, but we've continued pushing them despite the distress.
We've gotten so used to that awkward play of needing to be a somebody, as if that somebody were other than who we already are.
We've forgotten how to let go with all the spontaneity of a flowers growth; forgotten the beauty of our own personal bloom. That we are a fluid sweep of light and dark. That our faces, like the moons, wax and wane.
You don't have to be any which way, other than the way you are. That sort of self acceptance is the innate flourish, is the fluid self cycle, is the way back into life.
Don't fool yourself into believing there is a better disguise. Strip down to the bare beauty of your authentic state in this moment, and move from there.