something that's really hard to understand is that you can't save someone who has fallen in love with drowning
you could try to send rescue boats their way but they avoid your effort they like the waves the waves of sadness, tears and anxiety
they like to drown in the ocean of their mind where they have built a home out of despair, thoughts and hopelessness and there's nothing anyone could do
at the end you just have to understand, that you will never be able to save someone who doesn't want to be saved