Last night I went to an old friend’s wake he lay in the coffin now at peace gone overseas from the land of pain. Pictures of his active life and loves lay about on small tables where persons gathered alone tearfully remembering him and the stars in his universe dwelling in moments of solitude with his soul to reflect on the paths he crossed entering for a brief era the valley of their loss.
The room was loud with laughter and stories like the one I told of beer and touch football three decades ago when our bones were young joints moved easily and swiftly running and receiving passes on legs that now move like molasses.
Hugging old friends and catching up was like drinking a cup of sadness and joy.
He was a man of peace and there in that still presence past grievances and sins no longer swirled among us but only volumes of shared lives meeting our husbands and wives abiding in a circle of re-membering as if we were limbs and organs of the same human flesh still pulsing with unfinished work.
We were a wake to our souls and his and today I meet all those beautiful souls in place of hope that these precious moments of rising from death will remain with us for our small sliver of eternity.
This wake was an emotional experience for me, seeing many of my old colleagues and friends and recounting common experiences. My deceased friend Randy Conine was an English and Peace Studies professor and was an ethically eloquent speaker in our meetings and other public situations which called for judgement and ethical or moral stances. He was a carpenter too and he loved international students, especially African peoples for whom he was their active advocate and friend.