I'm a spinster, sick of seeing my sisters treated as flowers picked and wilted. Their petals ripped and ragged. In a cloudy vase -- the water needs changing, but what's the point, at this point? She died when you picked her -- cut from her roots, She is lacking nutrition, She can no longer absorb the wind's wild sustenance. She is too preoccupied trying to survive, under-appreciated, and ill-cared for.
Soon, when she is dry brown, brittle, into the compost, she goes. Fertile, rooting another devastatingly beautiful, flower, told to wait for someone to pick her.
But if you think a flower is beautiful, let her remain with her sisters.
I have many wonderful, smart, independent women in my life who deserve better from their partners.