Their wars are small, petty, and grey. I was subjected to a dialogue; a war story. Side A walked to Side B's kingdom to fight them. Side B formed a plan. Side B sent one person to confront Side A. She maced them. In their faces. In. Their. Faces. Her offense was successful. I heard this story from Side A. All I wanted to ask was, "Why fight them in the first place?". Why should I feel empathy; that they wanted to initiate violence instead of dialogue, and ended up getting outsmarted. What was the alternative? A fistfight, and now injuries that can't be fixed? Who ever learns from the mistakes of violence? Someone calls my love, "A stupid white ***** who needs to learn to keep her mouth shut", and I can't tell her not to carry a knife. In all my need for logic, even as a pacifist... Now, I take what little money I have and I buy her a canister of mace. Men are afraid women will undercut their power or make a fool of them. Women are afraid men will ****** them.