You can not look at and focus on something you don't want and not activate it in your reality
You can look at something you do want to see and in the process deactivate what you don't
you release yourself from the resistant vibration and emotion of looking at what you don't want to see by looking at what you do want to see
we have learnt to suffer been trained to stay focused on things hurting in the hope they may go away if we stay focused on them how is that working out ?
suffering isnt required to grow misery be optional its where and how you look at things that determines your vibrational stance and your life's circumstances
reality only changes when perception does there is no other window to creation but your own looking thru your own eye your own consciousness
clean that eye out and all will become clearer as you look thru it