There's only one kinda respect that matters That's self-respect, respect from you. It don't matter how it looks to others - what matters is how it looks to you.
So take a moment, make your choice and no matter what they say make sure your choice is true to self and that you don't betray your inner self, that heart of self that's waiting in the basement the self you hid, but can't deny that it's up for reappraisement.
Your basement self is restless it's hungry for the fight so feed your self some self respect and step into the light.