you are allowed to break out of the old you if it constricts you like a pair of too tight jeans you don’t keep pressing yourself into them you go and get yourself new ones that fit because your body keeps changing and so does your mind
so who cares if you had long hair all your life and everyone likes your long hair so very much take the scissors and cut them off
who cares if you’ve been doing this for years but are curious for something else now drop it and sign up new
you are not your past self you don’t have to keep her alive to satisfy other people’s expectations you are allowed to **** her every evening before going to bed and rise anew from her ashes the next morning