I used to look at people that shake I would tell myself I will never be like that I didn’t know the trauma in store for me at that time I thought I was more powerful than trauma I thought the police were genuinely going to protect my innocence I did not know that they were watching waiting for vulnerability I thought I could be like my best friend whose was white and his uncle was a police officer I thought I had privilege too well that was violently untrue language is too violent language needs to become vulnerable again then we can listen communicate gently in order to understand race politics one must be a domestic violence specialist