In every thing that has been done. Was decided and done by you. The only person who can make a change in your life is YOU. Not anyone. Be a better person than your yesterday self. Surround yourself with the people who really care about you. But do not forget to return the favor. As we all know this is what we call gratitude and not kissing ***. We have used that term too much that we dont know whom to trust. Sadly we have fed up our Pride that it grew bigger and fatter.......More than anything else.