It's hard to think clearly through the "That's Life!"s, "No work, no play"s, The "you can do anything you put your mind to"s, and the "do what makes you happy"s.
It's hard to keep a personality through the Ifs, buts and indefinite, fluctuating opinions of right and wrong, him and her, you and me.
It's hard to keep personal through the Impersonal means of communication, Retold stories, and the disatisfying interactions between you and the people you have chosen. The people who you believed had chosen you.