once a day I spend ten seconds sorry for me then ten hours on those worse off I think about my problems too long and not enough on what I can do to help others after all what good is pity for me I don't like it nor do I pity others I empathize try to put my foot in their shoe and it makes my problems dematerialize and one day I will wittle it down to ten seconds a year and hope I made a difference before I go on to whereever it is old hippies go to then