I have been taught by those much wiser and more experienced that if I am disturbed, I have in some way caused the disturbance. Whether by ignorance or inaction, intent or mistake. I am responsible for the actions I take; no one can "make me" do or feel anything.
Practice does not make perfect; practice makes permanent. Be ****** careful, then, what you practice.
A little consideration of one's own words and actions and consideration of others goes a long way.