being a mother is not about making bread and dinner every night
being a mother is about trying to understand and not gossiping to your friends about my bad choices when i broke up with the boy who i decided was not right for me
and believing me when i told you that i had an eating disorder that my brothers constant jokes about my weight had not helped (i could hear you say to my father, 'but bulimics lose their teeth')
being a mother is about being there when im in the kitchen crying and i know that you can hear me but you do not come out being a mother is about hearing the tinge in my voice when i say that i honestly don't know when i will be ready for school and the day and not accusing me of attitude but hearing that i am struggling being a mother is about supporting me and not telling me that you're waiting for my next mental breakdown and that im foolish for taking on so much and trying to do well because you think i can't do it well then maybe i can't do it
but you have failed a mother's essential job is to help their children conquer the world and you are not helping it's mother's day tomorrow but i do not want to celebrate i'd say that i'm sorry but i'm not