It is impossible to compass life without suffering harm from loved ones. Wrongs that take the ground from under the feet. Wrongs that hurt heart through and through. Wrongs that make us distraught victim. Does forgiveness immunize us for further injustices? Does forgiveness soothe suffering? One thing is certain, everyone has been hurt in life and everyone once inflicted wound: betrayal, selfishness, criticism, unjust judgment, bad word, emotional abuse, unfair reward.
Love that bears all things, and endures all things shows the principle of overcoming evil with good. We live in times where love is seen as pleasure. When there is lack of fulfillment the connection ends instead of support in moments of weakness, jointly bearing burden, willingness to give up the ego. In relations underflow of virtues is worthless. Every love at some point hurts. The more we love the greater the suffering. Remember, that you are also sometimes hard to bear.
One of the most important lessons in life is non acceptance of evil. Always we are entitled to protest and defense. There is a difference between sagacious enduring of injustice and permition for hard time andΒ Β humilitation. Defense against evil should be free from desire for revenge, hate, wrath, punishment and anger. Leave vengeance to God. The point is love. It is she who shows the right path. The cure for the human pain of injustice is forgiveness.
Man needs time to forgive, therefore necessary at times of touch of hurt is compassion. Does forgiveness mean to forget? No, forgiveness is an act of will not of forgetting. Great injury can not be erased from memory. Forgiveness is duty that gives hope and strength for the future. Forgiveness is the transition from helplessness to peace of heart. Forgiveness is overcoming anger and grief towards acceptance of reality. Is forgiveness reconciliation? No, although it is a quantum leap in the direction of reconciliation. There is no way to force act of reconciliation. Forgiveness is one thing, and to be mature for reconciliation is another thing. Most important in forgiveness is not to rely on gesture of compensation.
Some believe that only weak people forgive. Forgiveness requires tremendous effort and courage. It is easier to sail away in anger than creative dialogue which leads to remedy of the situation. Without forgiveness you can not win with guilt, abyss of past and human frailties. Forgiveness is above all priceless gift for yourself. Forgiveness frees you from inner poisons, and also opens up new lands. If we are able to injure, we are also able to say the sorry and make amends. Act of contrition allows for a true change of heart. Act of forgiveness is the bud of heart at peace.