It is not a regulated code, nor a law of Scripture. No one can tell you how to feel, or when to feel it, or if what you're feeling is even genuine. We don't measure the skip of a heartbeat in 'blips per second' and when it's broken, there's no exact way to fix it. That's why it's so hard, I think, for most people to learn how to love, because there is no 'this-is-how-to-do-it', guidebook called 'Love for Dummies' and who can tell you if you're 'strong' or not that's not their business because it's YOUR feelings and they can't get inside your head or heart and measure the blips-per-second to tell you, 'No, that isn't love,' or 'you're weak,' because only YOU know if you're strong only YOU can tell if you're in love. it's fascinating, actually like 'is my color red the same as your color red' or do we just call them the same thing?' is the way I love the same way that you love? they talk about those butterflies but it's more like I'm about to head down a roller coaster and butterflies are too gentle. Strong is relative. Love is relative. Define yourself because no one else can. and be careful, be very careful, my dear, to make sure you get the definition you deserve. You only get one.