Oh, little grey cat, come sit on my lap. and snuggle like my old departed feline used to do.
Too independent as cats tend to be, maybe in time you will perch on my lap and purr contentedly.
Truth be told, I fully understand your affection shown is way more about your needs than mine. The rest of the time you could not care less. Cats are the ultimate animal hedonist.
Don't tell him, but I actually admire his independent ways and the regal like dignity that comes along with it.