i once asked a friend why people leave he said the answer lay in my own self reflection as though the problem was me if a person rapes me and i want to know why should i self reflect? did my behaviour attract that crime? what if someone hits me? does self reflection still apply? i suppose i asked for it i must have started the fight why must i self reflect on what another person did? is their behaviour my fault? it seems my friend thinks it is now i'm reflecting on the holocaust the second world war that i created i wasn't even born yet but it happened so i must self reflect