they will constantly tell you that you're not enough not pretty enough not smart enough not interesting enough not admirable enough. ordinary, useless. and by repeating it they'll convince you that you'll only be happy and good enough when you fit in. Then, you're gonna try your best to be what they expect: P E R F E C T. only when you realize, perfection does not exist, and that you're not oblied to be anything, then you'll be happy.