some referrals a reward once in the while for just continuing to fight a nice word to take home to gather in late at night alone praise and a pat on the back , a hug kiss more once and 'gain a night of good conversation a look like we are desirable humans that sly come hither thing with passion for us candles and rose petals and morning kisses andΒ Β excitement a little champagne and dancing breath on our ear swaying and feel of another being feeling just like we do connecting or just someone liking us it so much matters