Sometimes all it ******* takes in Life is having a single iota of Self Control for One to bypass much grief and strife circumventing Victim for some other role;
moreover, I feel I must clarify, One must not lose One's Self to this, I wish to convey in some Earthly way Self-Discipline seems akin to Bliss.
Yes, as a matter of fact, is is exactly that hard. However hard that is, however, is entirely up to you.