when the lover dies a piece of the others heart goes too, as one left behind mourns, what was there is now gone the heart is a strong muscle capable of anchoring and strengthening at will the vow of the beloved's life together thereby even though time will pass and it will, the heart never fully heals, it feels the loss as if missing a limb, it's there but it isn't -coming to accept in theory that one half of of the whole is gone with nothing ever to replace it