I remember ex telling me she wants someone who takes control. It wasn't me at the time but I've learn to pick and choose before I was open and all the wrong ppl came into my life.
As I get older i realized ppl would blame me but that's cool I had to stop that others faults are not mine. I can't please everyone job or no job I found others are not fond of me because I keep it real and fakes can't handle that so they try to ruin my image and slander my character.
Now I don't bother or give ppl reasons to talk if they are running their mouth it's on them.