Healing is not an instant thing
It starts slowly, moving for each person differently
You start in the pain, everything reminding you of what happened
The sad songs that come on the radio, the posts you use to tag them in, the time of the day when you would text them
You think everything is lost, that you can't smile, be happy or think about the future
But then the healing starts
You start to smile when a friend makes you laugh, you get invited out and don't think about them for the time, you see a post and think about someone else
The pain and sadness is not gone but the healing starts to lessen it. It will still take a long time to be whole again but the healing process has started
and the healing and hope begin to make you  whole