No one wants to see the pain they caused
Our society doesn't want to deal with emotions
We hurt someone, and when they show that they are hurt
we go in to automatic defense mode
We start focusing on their reaction
and not what we did to cause it
Don't ask what's wrong just for you to figure out if your at fault
Do it because you genuinely care.
You know exactly what I mean too
When someone posts some elusive status update
that they are upset, people start to ask why?
Only most often it is to make sure it isn't them that caused the pain
Only it's not about you actually being in pain,
just that it isn't their fault
People ask why more often now as a defense mechanism
than as an actual query in to your emotional state
in order to help you and listen
Most only listen long enough to find out
if it is because of them or not
Ready to defend why they made whatever choice they did
Self serving care is ******* when done like this