they give their blessing ask if you're alright not really wanting to know the answer because the answer might be just what they fear and what they fear is that they don't have the time to hear your cries and not be sunken by them they don't have the time to lend their compass and not lose their own way they don't have the time to heal a friend a lover a flesh-and-blood who might just feel the same as them but more gray they have the time to attend a funeral