May I borrow a pair of your shoes. I want to use them for just a while. I want to walk some distance in your place. I want to understand you. Unless I can see from you point of view, then how can we get along? Unless I can understand what drives you, we will never get things resolved. So Can I borrow your shoes for just a little while. I promise I will not be long. I just want to learn more about you so that we can find ways to get along.