so often I start things and don't finish them it's humiliating i've learned to stop telling people I am doing things but frequently i forget and tell them I am doing something exciting then I stop doing it, when they ask me about it I have to sheepishly tell them i'm not doing it, or avoid the question entirely finishing things seems to be the main thing required in getting things done, yet so many of us, myself very much included, start things and don't finish them: books paintings education diets savings plans marriages we stop when it gets hard, or when we doubt ourselves and return to the place we were before, the comfortable place but doing this, this stopping, is what ***** up our lives, all the stopping ruins our dreams eventually we learn our lesson we wake up and realise we don't have the things we wanted: career success too much money a healthy body somebody to love us whatever you want, and we realise we've done something wrong that's when we change. that's when we start things and stick to them: when we're really ******* unhappy with our situation, when we don't want to go back to where we were when our only choice is to keep going. that's when so we stop giving up on things that's when we keep going, when we are desperate to get away from our ****** situation then we persevere through all the pain, setbacks and difficulties until one day, however many years away, we succeed. Then the pattern starts all over again we start something but quit because we're too comfortable where we are.