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Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
Why can’t you completely accept yourself as you are? What is stopping you from loving yourself? I feel as though it’s hard for someone to completely accept their self as they are because they’re use to being told how they should look, being on social media, and looking at images of certain people. What is stopping someone from loving their self is when they point out the things they don’t like about themselves, and can’t seem to take their mind completely off of it. Though, at the end of the day I feel that you shouldn’t be beautiful for anybody else but yourself.
“Why can’t you completely accept yourself as you are?” There were people of all ages that would find it better to wear makeup and get plastic surgery, but there is a disagreement that it shouldn’t be needed to make someone feel better about themselves because even if they decide to make those changes, their problems won’t because they’ll always be there. There was plenty of deep research on reasons why plastic surgery was good, why it was bad, reasons why makeup was good, and why it was bad. Though, we are leaning more towards why it is bad because we are focused on why can’t others completely accept themselves as they are without relying on plastic surgery and makeup.
I came across this website that spoke about reasons why women would get plastic surgery. “Some want to look younger”(WebMD) it’s very true that most girls and women want to look younger because when we all start to get old. We feel as though there is no hope in finding someone for ourselves, when in fact there is someone out there for us. It has to be the person that is the most accepting of you. Another statement was “Cosmetic surgery won’t change your life. It won’t solve personal problems or make you look like someone else,”(WebMD). It’s very true that it won’t solve your problems because others will still view you the same way because it doesn’t matter how you look. It’s the personality that sticks out the most. Though, it is very silly to believe that personality actually matters, it’s true because sometimes looks don’t last or change as much as a person’s personality.
There was a website that spoke about the issues and finances of plastic surgery and in the article it states that, ”Many people struggle with confidence issues because of their  appearance,”(Occupy theory). Many people can’t completely accept themselves as they are so they start to lack confidence, compare themselves to others, put themselves down, and they don’t believe that they are actually as beautiful as people tell them they are. Another statement that was made was, “Plastic surgery is one of the highest costs for surgery there is,”(Occupy theory). There shouldn’t be any reason why women should waste their money on getting plastic surgery because it just isn’t worth it especially if it’ll all be for the wrong reasons.
There were reasons why women would wear makeup, and what stuck out the most is when it stated, “It’s a way to be expressive,”(Mathews 4). It’s very true that most girls and women want to be more expressive with the type of makeup that they wear because it shows a different but creative side to them. Another statement that stuck out the most is when it stated, “Do not wear it because you think you’re at an age where it’s necessary to start wearing it. Wear it because you want to,” (Mathews 4). Everything that a person does in their life is because they want to do it when it is right for them, not when someone tell them when to start wearing it.
There were pros and cons of make up and in the article it stated, “wearing makeup everyday can cause serious skin problems,”(Warjri 4). No girl should really feel the need to wear makeup everyday because they need to let their skin breathe because there isn’t a problem with just being natural. It’s better to start embracing your skin and being completely natural instead of being afraid. Another statement that was being made was, “A layer of makeup on the skin clogs the pores and prevents skin from breathing,”(Warjri 4). Wondering why you still get pimples? Well, wearing makeup everyday is what is causing that to happen. So, trying to wear makeup trying to cover up the pimples isn’t going to solve much.
A book called, “The Gifts of Imperfection”, connects in some way to my why question which is why it stuck out a lot. As I was reading the book, the part that stuck out is when it stated, “The better we are at accepting ourselves and others, the more compassionate we become. Well, it’s difficult to accept people when they are hurting us or taking advantage of us or walking all over us,”(Brown pg 17). It’s important to accept ourselves and others as they are because in reality nobody is perfect. That’s why no girl or women should be obligated to wear makeup just so they can be seen as “beautiful” by other people. Another statement that stuck out the most to me was, “What does it take to live and love from a place of worthiness? How do we embrace imperfection? How do we cultivate what we need and let go of the things that are holding us back? The answers to all of these questions are courage, compassion, and connection—the tools we need to work our way through our journey,”(Brown pg 1). This stuck out the most to me because compassion and connection are very important and that’s what should matter the most. Not how you look.
The solution is that everyone should test themselves and try their best to last at least a few weeks without using products to make themselves feel “beautiful” or to make themselves feel better, and they’ll start to realize that it’s better getting up in the morning not having to worry about putting certain things on to make them feel better about themselves.
This was something I wrote for my English class in college that I was very passionate about and cared for. Don't be afraid to disagree or agree with what I've written or give feed back. It would be much appreciated. <3
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
You're not alone
But being the presence of someone that makes you feel alone
Is one of the most painful feelings you could ever feel
Because you sit there wondering
Is it something about you?
That makes you uninteresting
So you keep trying to figure out ways
To make everything better
Because you want the attention
They use to give you before
You want things to be as they were
Because you can't get yourself
To accept that things change
You can't accept that there'll be times
When there isn't much left to say
So you just sit there in silence
And hope for the best
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
Look straight ahead,
You may find the one you love,
I know it's hard to explain but believe it,
"It's just like love at first sight"
They all say
Hoping it would last forever
Because it's going great
Just watch out for the curves and bumps that lay on the road in front of you.
It's better to keep it straight and firm and look beyond you
Yes it might be difficult,
But just follow what your heart says
It doesn't matter if others don't agree
Its all about what your heart tells you.
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
My life has changed immensely ever since my childhood. Even though I always see positivity in change due to the lessons I’ve learned, I feel as though some changes I have made are ones I’m not necessarily proud of. Body image never seemed to be important to me.

When I was a toddler, I felt completely confident about myself because I use to dress up and show off with the stuff that I wore. As I got older, I realized that being “beautiful” wasn’t what I was because in a past relationship I was with someone who made me feel like I was not good enough. He had so many expectations about what I should be and that just wasn’t who I was. I wasn’t comfortable because I tried to be “beautiful” for someone else instead of myself. The more I thought I wasn’t “beautiful”, the more I felt very insecure about myself . In society today, “beautiful” is defined as women who have a good figure, perfect teeth, perfect everything and so on.

I’ve always caught myself comparing myself to other girls and I wouldn’t understand why. I’ve put myself down because I thought I wasn’t good enough or attractive enough, but what I want for others to get out from this is. No matter how you look, no matter what you wear, and no matter what you weigh. You’ll always be beautiful in your own way. Everybody should love who they are as they are because a part of being unique is just being different. Instead of looking exactly like everyone else. The reason why I want everybody to feel good about themselves is so they won’t struggle each and everyday with worrying about how they may look. Nobody should ever live a life full of worry or stress just because they don’t look the way society expects them to look.

What I want others to think about is rather you’re a boy or girl, Why can’t you completely accept yourself as you are? What is stopping you from loving yourself? I feel as though it’s hard for someone to completely accept their self as they are because they are used to being told how they should look, being on social media, and looking at images of certain people. What is stopping someone from loving their self is when they point out the things they don’t like about themselves, and can’t seem to take their mind completely off of it. Though, at the end of the day I feel that you shouldn’t be beautiful for anybody else but yourself.
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
You need to develop long term attachment to that person before infatuation fades.

Love fades when one person in the relationship has many expectations of what a “perfect relationship” is supposed to be like. They expect it to be the way it is in the movies when in reality it’s never going to be anything like that.

Love loses it's intensity over time. Lust which is a lot of what we feel is "love" nowadays DOES fade. Love is waking up in the morning and hugging that significant other close and tight before you both have to leave the bed and be responsible. Love is enjoying one's company, even if it's not fully engaging between both parties. Love only grows stronger because over time we gain a stronger appreciation for the other person. Lust just fades cause the glamour of it all dies out, what's left are two "naked" human beings and that's where real love shows it's face. If one says love loses it's intensity over time, maybe that's less reflective of love, and more reflective of the relationships one finds themselves in.
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
I've told you how I've felt
But feared to tell you the rest
I'm frighten by what your reaction might be
Because the outcome to these
certain things
Are never the best
But I've been overthinking this
Because it maybe to fast
But when is the RIGHT time to ever say something like this?
How do you say you "love" someone without them completely ignoring you?
But I guess that's the risk you have to take.
Cynthia Montano Sep 2018
Sitting there in silence
Vibin' to the music
With you by my side
Just livin' in the moment
Now we're looking up at the sky
Admiring the stars up above
And I turn to look at you
And you don't notice that I'm admiring all the
details of your face
The feeling of being beside you
Feels so right to me
And the music is bringing us closer together
I want to remember this moment forever

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