It is weird, because we, from the one side don't want our situation to be common. Our situation not being common makes us feel special, we become martyts, and it proposes a ruthless version of world, that's an enemy too powerful for us to fight against, and us - "the ones that fought, that tried, but couldn't win because of fatum". It takes away the responsibility.
On the other hand, we like to know that there are other souls out there, that form an unique group with us - sharing our rare pain.