The reason it's harder to love ourselves
than to love others is
that you can never hide
the things you hate about yourself
from yourself
but the ones you love
can hide theirs from you
(l.p)
But maybe that is the reason for love - to learn how to love another person independent of the things they hate about themselves - and if they tell you, maybe you end up loving those things to heal the one you love - and you fear that if you tell other people about the things you hate about yourself you fear that no one will love those to heal you.