Part one*
When the boy at the bus stop whistles at you on your way home from the Take Back the Night march,
Give him the finger.
When your boyfriend tells you he only likes long hair,
Shave your head.
When a stranger calls you a ****,
Say thank you.
When your mother tells you not to write the poem,
write it anyway. Perform it. Take the criticism, take the prize.
When they target your hometown with hate crimes,
Explain calmly. They are mistaken.
When that doesn't work,
Fight. Yell. Make them afraid to cross you.
When your best friend needs to cry,
Be quiet.
When the world tries to ignore you,
Don't let them.
Be strong, be proud, be courageous.
You are a role model.*
Part two
The first time he hits you,
Stay with him.
When he asks for your forgiveness for the sixth time,
Give it to him.
When he does not stop at no,
Close your eyes. Wait until he's finished.
When the girl tears down years worth of built up confidence with one number,
Starve yourself.
When a boy whistles in your direction.
Give him the finger. Turn away. Hide your smile.
It shouldn't matter that he was the only one who noticed the colour of your lipstick.
When your lover sheds kisses on your wounds,
Laugh. He will not ask you to stop.
You would not ask him to stop unless this was somehow different.
When you begin to backslide,
Do not ask for help.
Break down in public.
Love them when they start to worry.
Love them like you never learned to hate,
Make them scared that you will.
You were supposed to know better.
Part three
You are an abstract work of art.
A compilation of every sort of experience wrapped up in one.
You have made mistakes, you can make up for them.
Be proud.
When they try to lock you up,
be proud.
When they try to hold you back,
Be proud.
When they call you a hypocrite,
Do not run, do not be ashamed.
Forgive them.
*Forgive yourself.