So when looking at others you see outwardly what they want you to see
You can sense from their actions where  they in fact are even if they don't know.
From their words more.
Their touch more again.
We colide with people and on collision loose parts of us and gain debris.
Seldom we collide when at the same state of mind in body and emotions.
Often it's in turmoil from a recent collosion.
To some extent greater or lesser we all move from definition to definition of what and who we are or become
Its the perception of inner self relative to others
and to ones self.
That is the soul