In all the time of my self imposed expatriation no matter how bad things in Ireland were at the time of my departure I could never justify nor forgive myself for abandoning a country that nurtured & schooled me. There was constant gnawing of my soul and sure it t’wasn’t easy for me either to go and leave a woman who saved me, from myself, but had no desire to be anywhere but N.Zealand. It’s when I think torment I realise that everyone is like me, we all want to be at home especially those of us misfortune enough not to speak our native tongue, that is double a blow not to know where we are spiritually and it is this experience which gives me empathy and compassion for refugees. There is no such thing as an economic migrant, we Irish had great economic opportunities abroad but no matter, some of us are like the salmon, we will go through hell to be home even at the expense of a lifetime relationship, just as I have forced my wish on a woman who has gone through Limbo to live in a Purgatory of my making.