if you're in a dark place, where you want to lash out with pettiness and anger.. you want to insult someone, express how hurt you are by what they did.. do it. lose yourself in that dark place.. embrace it. become inspired with terror and anger and malice. the 'enlightened' approach is overrated.. it is also unnatural. be free to express anger, sadness, malice.. embrace your shadow. stop running from it. stop violently repressing it with manners and futile attempts at self-improvement. embrace your ego, because the greatest ego trip is to think you have transcended the ego. enlightenment is everything, because 'everything' is non-dual. you are still a Buddha if you run your mouth with angry knives. 'Nice' can be violent, because 'nice' can imply self-oppression. Free yourself with a needed 'hey, *******!'
you're alive. so you might as well admit it. lose yourself both in beauty and in terror. let all of it set you on fire with inspiration, and admit that, sometimes, you really do just want to watch the world burn, otherwise there is no room for anything else to grow. let yourself stoop to that level and admit you house evil as well as good. you are night and day. it's all part of the mad dance of life, so you might as well turn the music up and stop holding yourself down tooth-and-nail in order to save face.
your anger is a beautiful thing. embrace it. your sadness is a beautiful thing. embrace it. your life is a beautiful thing. embrace it.