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Jul 2023
She who has her own but uses his I postulate to deceive, to manipulate, to conjure up feelings and thoughts, to market and promote what she likes and values in his name, to elevate her status as a y and as a z in his viewers' eyes, to elevate his status so that through association hers is raised, to... is his wife who uses (his) social media as a device, as a ploy, as a stratagem

And it is he, her husband who is to blame for allowing her to be deceptive using a tool of his, a tool by which the public understands to be (his)...why of course, his first and last name is ascribed it
It is he, her husband who is responsible for enabling her deception and her game playing

He went along with it from the start
She asked for my passwords, I have nothing to hide was said of the reason he gave them to her, said about 12 years ago
Why do you want my passwords?, is what should have been the reply. What do you need my Facebook and my email passwords for?

We're not like you and him...You've been married a long time...
We're newly married
said to a relative
Logic would say, if both parties are questioning at the start of their marriage whether each can be trusted or not, the two needed not to have gotten married
But was the issue of trust (as illegitimate of a reason as it is given marriage and distrust of one's partner are incongruent) the reason (what her husband concluded/assumed) or the primary reason or the only reason she asked for his passwords?

12 years later, she still has his passwords

He's still going along with it
I postulate because what she's doing has resulted in no serious harm to him (so he thinks), it does not threaten him in any serious way(s), there is no/there are no immediate or negative consequences to him that he deems meaningful, it's very, very likely that by now, 12 years later, he's been conditioned to think that such abuse is normal, yes a kind of domestic abuse that he gives his consent for, not by a husband toward his wife as many, could be said most conceive domestic abuse to be but by a wife towards her husband

And they have her in the classroom teaching and grooming very young kids with no other adult in the classroom regularly to observe her and what she's doing
Just like how she puts much on camera should have had a surveillance camera in her classroom
And the primary reason she's in there, the reason it was allowed to happen...my hypothesis is because they have been long time friends of her husband and like him

His Facebook is her name
His social media is her fame

Viewers don't be misled
Viewers don't be fooled
12 years later, she still has his passwords
12 years later, she's still posting on his Facebook (when she has her own) and doing so whenever she chooses or when she decides to
12 years later, she's opening and reading personal emails of his (emails others have sent to him/his email account at the same time violating their privacy and confidentiality), and when she chooses, replying to them

Just as many, many, many husbands are guilty of domestic abuse so are many, many, many wives. Yes, yes...many, many, many wives are guilty of domestic abuse. It's just not as talked about or publicized largely in part because it's presentation is not of a physical nature and because typically speaking, husbands don't speak about it or make it known publicly for the number of reasons that they don't.

Often, very often, one who is a chronic victim of long standing or long-term domestic abuse is equally as dangerous (their danger is illustrated in a number of ways) as the domestic abuser. Often, he/she too becomes a domestic abuser because he/she has willfully been subjected to abuse from his/her spouse for so long, he/she has gone along with the program (for whatever reasons) for so long that the abusive behaviors of his/her partner has in essence rubbed off on him/her; he/she learns the behaviors of his/her domestic abuser and in turn behaves in a like manner or similarly with others - what is called learned behavior.

Domestic abuse is a danger to those who are being targeted and to the viewers of it. To say the least, it is a menace to society. Everyone gets negatively impacted or hurt by it.

I don't like being around domestic abuse. I don't like to be a witness of it. I refuse to be around it and around those who enact it or perpetuate it.
Written by
Najwa Kareem
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