people say, ”you can’t love someone before you love yourself”

and i feel like that advice comes from a very broken place

perhaps those who give this advice would either not have gone through trauma

or not have fully healed from it

not all of us are strong enough to have loved ourselves first

we might not have found our own worth

but maybe in loving and being loved back

would help us realise the value within

the values that those who love us see that we have yet to ourselves