people say, ”you can’t love someone before you love yourself”
and i feel like that advice comes from a very broken place
perhaps those who give this advice would either not have gone through trauma
or not have fully healed from it
not all of us are strong enough to have loved ourselves first
we might not have found our own worth
but maybe in loving and being loved back
would help us realise the value within
the values that those who love us see that we have yet to ourselves
it’s okay if you find it hard to be kind to yourself. but it doesn’t mean you can’t find and love someone who can be.