You lucked out with the man you got. But wait! Respect the other lady that molded him into being the kind you adored. Mostly she went through the destruction, the hell, and conflict.
The first one that cared for him when he was sick. Needed support to overcome obstacles he couldn't accomplish alone.
So honors to the first lady before you. The one you feel the need to fight and put down. Spead all kinds of rumors about.
Of course, what you know of her? Her attitudes, her ways mainly came from him. Even if she angry analyze yourself. For guilt can go various ways.