Instead of trying to stigmatize perhaps you should prioritize and realize that everyone flinches from pain and for some people life hurts so ******* much that flinching out of existence seems to be the only option and instead of trying to minimize perhaps you should be trying to sympathize and it doesn't matter if nobody was there for you during the bad times that you pretend didn't happen because withholding your compassion from those who need it most is the worst sort of death you can inflict and there's no justifying it.