It makes more sense to give men flowers, when you think about it. After all some love women and women are floral in nature some men rush quick to pick but crush in their hands or neglect until they go dry from want. you said your favorite flower is a spider lily i know where you came to know those blooms i run by the viewing station 3 days a week they grow in the middle of the river where an island of rocks makes the water slow and a few guardian trees grow you love flowers that take getting your feet wet to touch and that you can never posses by cutting, only by growth.