What changes a woman from being just a hookup for ***, to a girlfriend or a wife? Pregnancy? No. A job? No? Their own place? No. A car? No. A college degree? Yes? Sanity? Yes? No Substance abuse issues? Yes? No childhood *** abuse issues? No? A bank account? No? Being too old, fat, & ugly? Yes?.....why? I have what every other female has *****, a mind, a personality, a diet, a high school education, an interest in the opposite ***, a type preference, an appetite, a fragrance, an opinion, a fantasy, a desire, a will, empathy, compassion, self control, will power, self respect & I'm careful.