You say you don't control how I feel.
When you lie -
     you take away my choice
           and control my response.
When you avoid-
      You cause me frustration
While you expect me not to react-
     thereby controlling my anger.
When you yell
      you trigger my fight or flight response
         so you are controlling my fear.
But how about this?
You can't control my walking out the door-
      I take back my control.